I'm new and grieving

[trayc]

:mad::confused: angry sad depressed thats how im feeling...i have just found this site thak god as i have discorved rainbow bridge and feel a lil happier that lola my pup will be there.
im tracey 28 and did own a lovely cavalier king charles tri bitch. she was only 5 months old when she died a few weeks ago. we only had her 3 months and already she was a huge part of our family and loved so so muh. she was such a lovely dog and even tho she only had a few short months with us they were happy ones and im glad she came to us instead of another family. she was spoilt rotten and she loved it. she was called lola. we were so excited when we went to pick her up and make her part of us it took us a week to decided on her name and when we found it we knew that would be her name and everybody said how much she suited her name. il tel you what happened.
the week before she died she was stangely lehagic no enery of food not drinking etc. esp when she was always playin and jumpin about so i took her vets and they didnt know what was wrong they gave her vitamin shots and said she would perk up. she didnt. i took her back few days later as she had gotten worse and had been sick a few times. they checked her heart beat it was very low they said 40 beats per min should of been around 120 beats also said she was very small for her age more size of a 12 weeek old rather than a 20 week old. she was kept on a drip that day for 12 hours we hope n prayed when we went to pick her up she would be her self again but she wasnt she was the same. we took her back again the next day were they did more tests and we then deicede on xrays incase she had eaten sumthing as was bieng sick more often at this point. sadly on the day of xray she died under sedation.it was then discovered she had a massivley enlarged heart and had a herat defect from birth that we was not aware of. i was so schoked when i got the phone call that i didint actully belive them. i expected phone cll sayin yes she has eaten sumthin we will operate on her consent and everything. but that was just noit expoected. it has been over 4 weeks now and im still upset i think of her all time i have her ashes here in a vase with 3 red flowes called lola flower. i havent the heart to let them go yet. she loved us so much we loved her so much and im just gutted and wanted to shre my loss with you and hope it helps a little. sorry to all f youy for your losses its hert breaking when we loose such a good friend. traceyxxxx

[mermaid2708]

please accept my heartfelt sympathy over the tragic loss of Lola you have suffered. We have a cocker, Ruby, who is 7 months, and as you said they so quickly become loved members of the family. Do not let anyone underestimate the amount that you will grieve, though i am sure no one on this site will do that. Take your time and try to focus on the happy times you had with Lola and not the tragic curcumstances in which you lost her. Try and take comfort from the fact that this was a very poorly puppy right from the offset, even though you did not know that, and you made her short life happy and full of love...xxx

[happysaz133]

I am so sorry to hear your sad story. How devastating it must have been to lose her so young. May she rest in peace xxx

[Helli]

Oh trayc, I feel for you, to lose a pup so young must be terrible.

[dlambertz]

So very sorry....

[skunkstripe]

Hi trayc and welcome
I'm so sorry to hear that sad story about Lola. Sometimes our dogs get sick and die very suddenly, or at least it seems that way. They won't tell us if they are in pain or sick but hide it until it is too late. But you said she was spoiled rotten and I'm sure she appreciated it. It will always hurt but you will never forget her. http://www.geocities.com/mymixedbreeddog/smileys/notsmileys/rainbow.gif

[Borzoi mad]

Hi Tracy welcome to you but sorry that it has to be under such sad circumstances . I can relate to the loss of little Lola at such a young age as my friend recently lost her little cavalier puppy who was 11 months old. She had workmen in and they left the door open and the puppy got out and onto the road into the path of an oncomiing van and my friend rushed out and saw it happen and little Oscar diied in my friends arms a few minuteds later.

It will take time for you to come to terms with your loss and this is different for different people, but little Lola is free from pain and can run with little Oscar at the bridge.

http://i46.photobucket.com/albums/f119/Borzoi03/RB.jpg

[brunosmom]

Hi Trayc....I sorry about Lola.{{{HUGS}}} I am sure no one could have loved her more than you. She is no longer sick and is happily playing waiting to meat up with you again.

[KatzNK9]

Hello and welcome to the forum. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Life just isn't fair sometimes & losing a pup at only 5 months is truly tragic. She was a lucky pup to have been loved for her short life. I do hope your happy memories of your pup often bring smiles to you. Hugs.

[Lola the Puli]

Hello and welcome. I'm very sorry to hear about your loss of little Lola. Until I got my dog (also called Lola) 5 months ago I would never have realised how much a part of the family they become so quickly. It sounds as though you made her short life full of fun and that she was lucky to have such caring owners.

[Katybud]

Welcome and so sorry for your loss

[xcolbi]

I am so sorry for your loss. :( RIP, sweet Lola.

[trayc]

thankyou to you all for your kind and lovely messages it has helped a little to share it with you all i guess writing it down and making me talk about it and i now no about rainbow bridge i know she is not alone and in pain and running n playin happlily.i just miss her so much and when i wake up in the morning it all seems ok for a few seconds till i remeber she is gone. i still have her stuff her bed brush collar toys i just cant get rid of them. i no it will take time and some of my freinds who have never owned dogs just dont understand wile im still so sad. so im glad i have found this place aand know i can grieve as long as i want.
barzoi please tell your fiend im so sorry for her loss it must of been awful to witness lil oscar get run down bless him poor lil lad rip oscar and play happily with my lil lola.p.s how do i get pictures up so i can post a pic of my lola.

[Borzoi mad]

barzoi please tell your fiend im so sorry for her loss it must of been awful to witness lil oscar get run down bless him poor lil lad rip oscar and play happily with my lil lola.p.s how do i get pictures up so i can post a pic of my lola.


I will let my friend know and I know she will be happy to know that Oscar has Lola as a little friend.

My friend was just like you woke up every day thinking he was still there and that horrible sinking feeling when she realised he was not and she blamed herself for him being knocked down and it has been very difficult for her. At first a she said she would never trust herself to have another but she had a re-think is now having another cavalier puppy ( he comes home to her today infact) she has named him Hamish and tho' he will never replace Oscar he will fill a bit of the gap that Oscar has left.

Comforting cuddles , thinking of you.

As regards posting pics if you go into Photo bucket and Open an account there(its free) you can post pics from there, at least that is the way I post them. Looking forward to seeing pictures of Lola.

[Doberman's]

Prayers and thoughts to you. I am very sorry to hear about Lola, that is very tragic.

[sarahdena]

I am SO very sorry about your loss.
Not that it's any consolation... but at least you can rest assured that she was happy, loved and surrounded by a loving family during her life.
Bless.

[trayc]

people kept askin me if i was going to get another but i didnt feel it was right. well one of my freinds owns 2 king charles and one of them is pregnant and she has offered me one so im seriuosly considering it i feel at a loss withhout a dog around after havin one and i just loved it going out all time peole stoppin me in the street to stroke her even makin freinds with other dog owners. teachin her new tricks etc...playin about on the floor with her toys. i miss it al most of all her. people say at the end of the day dont feel guilty in lolas memory if you do beacuse you got a dog for a reason and i dont think she would mind so will see my freinds dog is due 23rd of oct so said i can go round anytime and have a look when born. i think i no il be takin one home with me at 8 weeks hehe. will see.
tell your friend i hope hamish has a lovely and long life with her which im sure he will. bet she is so excited and of course he will never replcae oscar no dog could he will always be with her. hopin that lola pic has been added now if il try again later.thank you so much for takin time out to reply to me

[Borzoi mad]

trayc I think you should seriously consider having another puppy as I said it will never replace Lola but like my friend with Oscar it will help fill the gap she has left in your life. I am sure Lola would want you to be happy and if getting another little one makes you so she will be smiling down at you from rainbow bridge and will be happy that you are happy.

I will pass on your message about Hamish to my friend.

[trayc]

thankyou..i am thinking about it and i prob will if i do il come on here an let you know an post pics and then i can get advise and things now i have found this site so that will help with things.http://i171.photobucket.com/albums/u316/Trayc_bucket/Picture087-1.jpg?t=1190819927this is lola and my daughter hope its worked noiw she was only 4 months old there but you can see how gorgeous she was.

[brunosmom]

Hi Trayc.....I can see why you are missing her so much she is beautiful, but do let her memory bring sadness. I am sure she would never want you to be unhappy when you think of her.:) In time you will be able to replace the tears with smiles and good thoughts when thinking about her. As everyone here can tell you losing a beloved pet is the hardest part of having them....

[Borzoi mad]

thankyou..i am thinking about it and i prob will if i do il come on here an let you know an post pics and then i can get advise and things now i have found this site so that will help with things.http://i171.photobucket.com/albums/u316/Trayc_bucket/Picture087-1.jpg?t=1190819927this is lola and my daughter hope its worked noiw she was only 4 months old there but you can see how gorgeous she was.

She was a lovely little girl and that it is a really good picture of her with your daughter and a nice keepsake. Hope you do decide to have a puppy from your friend and it would be lovely to have you post on here with both stories of how the puppy is doing and pictures.

Comforting cuddles and hope you have some good news soon.:)

[happysaz133]

Lola was such a beautiful little dog.
I know it seems like betrayal getting another dog, but I can completely understand the empty feeling you have when a loved pet is suddenyl gone. We got a new dog just 9 days after we lost out girl in 2001. It seemed cruel at the time but it was what we needed. Wish you the best of luck if you do get the pup.

[Mom to Lil Buddy]

I can see why you loved her so much. I too would second getting another puppy. It isn't replacing Lola, nothing can do that, but some people just have so much love that they need that dog to feel whole.

[trayc]

thankyou so much to all of u reply to me...i now i shouldnt feel guilty if i was to get another dog now. you have all made me realise that so thankyou so much. i will defo keep update if i do get one. and so glad i found this site your all so nice.
thankyou xxx

[Aussiepaws]

How tragic to loose Lola so young. Your not alone in your pain. Anger is all part of the grieving process especially where your dog was still a puppy, and was so loved.

In time the pain will pass and your memories of her will give you strength. Hopefully in time you will be able to open your heart to another wonderful dog.

[Aussiepaws]

thankyou..i am thinking about it and i prob will if i do il come on here an let you know an post pics and then i can get advise and things now i have found this site so that will help with things.http://i171.photobucket.com/albums/u316/Trayc_bucket/Picture087-1.jpg?t=1190819927this is lola and my daughter hope its worked noiw she was only 4 months old there but you can see how gorgeous she was.

Nothing hit me harder than when we lost our beloved Zephyr in November of 2005. I didn't think I'd be ready to get another dog for a long while as we still had our Odin and at 10 years old I didn't know if it would be a good idea to get a puppy. However fate sometimes plays it's hand. I promised Odin and Zephyr's breeder that I would go with her when she was ready to pick out her new puppy .. unexpectedly one of the pups in the litter came bounding up to me jumped against my leg wanting me to pick her up. A week later Cadence came home to live with us ... Zephyr had only been gone 4 weeks ... I thought it was too soon, but in the end it was the best thing I ever did. Odin seemed happier too and she's kept him young.

While I still miss Zephyr greatly, I feel she was Zephyr's gift to me. I think he knew how horribly we would miss him and somehow told Cadence to pick me that day when I went to see the puppies.

[Charles]

You just have to think what a wonderful,if only short life she had with you.
you have done all you can,I have been through it 3 times now and it does not get easier.
Go out and give another desperate dog a home and all the love it needs,that I have found is the best thing to do in that situation,we are thinking about you,good luck.

[lovingpaws]

I'm sorry for your loss. We here do understand. As for getting another dog, you'll never replace Lola and I think we all here know that we can never replace, but we can fill a void, the love we want to share, and we can love another. I love this poem that expresses that - And though our bond can't be broken apart, make room for another in your home and your heart.


http://www-hsc.usc.edu/~rneville/saveapet.html

Sorrow fills a barren space; you close your eyes and see my face
and think of times I made you laugh, the love we shared, the bond we had,
the special way I needed you - the friendship shared by just we two.
The day's too quiet, the world seems older, the wind blows now a little colder.
You gaze into the empty air and look for me, but I'm not there -
I'm in heaven and I watch you, and I see the world around you too.

I see little souls wearing fur, souls who bark and souls who purr
born unwanted and unloved - I see all this and more above -
I watch them suffer, I see them cry, I see them lost, I watch them die.
I see unwanted thousands born - and when they die, nobody mourns.

These little souls wearing fur (Some who bark and some who purr)
are castaways who - unlike me - will never know love or security.
A few short months they starve and roam, Or caged in shelters - nobody takes home.
They're special too (furballs of pleasure), filled with love and each one, a treasure.


My pain and suffering came to an end, so don't cry for me, my person, my friend.
But think of the living - those souls with fur (some who bark and some who purr) -
And though our bond can't be broken apart, make room for another in your home and your heart.

http://webpages.charter.net/westiesnet/loveof/loss_poems.htm

[Charles]

thankyou..i am thinking about it and i prob will if i do il come on here an let you know an post pics and then i can get advise and things now i have found this site so that will help with things.http://i171.photobucket.com/albums/u316/Trayc_bucket/Picture087-1.jpg?t=1190819927this is lola and my daughter hope its worked noiw she was only 4 months old there but you can see how gorgeous she was.


You MUST get another dog, there are so many needing a good home and love like you can give it, its very tough,but part of llife I am afraid,I have had it 3 times and loved them all the same way and gave them fantastic lives,,,,,,,,,go and get one,thats an order.............:teaching:

[mum2max]

What a tragic story. However, in her short life she was loved and cared for so well. You were lucky to have her and she was lucky to have you xxx.

[trayc]

You MUST get another dog, there are so many needing a good home and love like you can give it, its very tough,but part of llife I am afraid,I have had it 3 times and loved them all the same way and gave them fantastic lives,,,,,,,,,go and get one,thats an order.............:teaching:
thankyou so much for sharing that lovely poem.. i have only just seen this. and u have cheered up my heart. im still missin lola an think of her every day. it get beter a lil each time.

[trayc]

ok i will. wel not right now. but im looking. thankyou

[PomeranianCrazy]

So sorry to hear about your loss! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

I hope this helps!
http://www.dogforum.org/showthread.php?t=7442

[luv_my_brownie]

Hi trayc and welcome. I'm so sorry about your loss. Prayers and thoughts to you. God bless.

[kmdavies]

welcome trayc I'm sorry to hear about your loss I too lost my furry child this year. I totally know how you felt when you wrote this thread how are you feeling now??? Hope your feeling better It doesnt seem to go away the loss I dont think anyway you just start thinking of the happier times well thats whats happened to me I think of him all the time but not so much with tears and sadness now. I'm just thinking now about having a puppy but I'm still in the early stages shall I sharn't I I dont want to replace George nothing ever could I just miss the company and all that unconditional love . One of the girls on the site left me a note saying George would choose me another pup when the times right and I ve come now to think that may be true so may be Lola will do that for you. Hope your OK

[Pauline46]

Tracey, I am so very sorry for your pain. I lost my Collie boy at 7 months of age. It was sudden and unexpected. It is very hard. We got another Collie pup right away. It was not easy, but in the end I worked out good. She has comforted us in many ways.

I hope in time you will feel ready to love another pup........

[Charles]

Make shore you go to a proper breeder,not kennels that sell all types of dogs.
My second dog Bonzo whom we lost in 1979 was from a kennels that sell all types,anyway at 6 years old he got Leukemia and we had to have him put to sleep at 7 years old,the vet said ,"When you get another Schnauzer make sure you go to a proper breeder of them,I took his advice and got Peter at 6 months old,he lived until he was 16 years old,I was heartbroken as you can imagine,but the breeder I bought him off new what had happened and phoned to say could I give a home to Luke he is 6 months old,the best Schnauzer I have ever bred but has a mind of his own and Will NOT be a show dog, thats what she does a lot of. so we went had a look and came back with him, he is 13 years old on 26th November,and we think thew world of him,just like you will when you get another one,good luck,and go to a breeder.