I'm scared of losing my puppy.

[olimpia]

I just found out my boyfriend been cheating on me. we are living together and we just got our puppy 5 weeks ago, we both treated her like our baby, i dont know what to do now.... leila is soo good puppy, shes been licking my face when i was crying...

[iwantmypup]

Hiya!

Oh my, I am so sorry. Leila is such a cutie, btw! I really hope you guys can work something out..
Take care and if you ever need to talk you can talk to me. :)

-Ali

[olimpia]

thanks IWANTMYPUP, some english friends told me family not exists in england, not i understand, someone can say love u everyday and seriously planing future together and planning to have family, but at same time cheating on you, wow, that must need very good skill to manage the double life.

[Katybud]

Very sorry to hear that.

[zoran]

Olimpia, that's really not the way a serious man would act. Only a man with very low morals would act this way. If you can live elsewhere I would suggest you get out now before becoming further involved with this guy,,,you keep the pup, just leave or ask him to leave.

[sheplovr]

Awwww soooo sorry such a sad story. Some men cannot be truthful to one person, maybe this is best you find out now than marry him and he cheats when you have children to care for alone??

I do hope you keep the puppy for you as he did wrong, so u should get the puppy tell him. Let him go and please feel free to leave and finding this now is the best for you. Please keep your puppy, he does not deserve it. He is too busy. Bless Ya....:)

[olimpia]

thing is he bought the leila and we both really love her, even i gave money to him, i dont think he will let leila go. unfortunately im living in his house at moment, and i left my job 3 weeks ago, my boiyfriend persuaded me not back to work, because we need someone at home to look after leila, so i didnt seek for job yet, but i definately need do now. and the worst thing is im still loving him, im living abroad by myself near 5 years, always wanna settle down and have a family, scince we together last year, he convinced me he loving me and wanna have a baby and family with me, now,i just feel so empty, life can be so crulty sometimes.

[Tom Cruise]

thanks IWANTMYPUP, some english friends told me family not exists in england, not i understand, someone can say love u everyday and seriously planing future together and planning to have family, but at same time cheating on you, wow, that must need very good skill to manage the double life.
oh hey, i'm from Leeds so kudos for that. The guy sounds like a jerk, I appreciate it will be incredibly hard to tear yourself away from the dog but you'd really be best getting out of the situation. If you have the money to offer him for the dog, offer it. If that would be a struggle, I think that you'd be better advised to use your money to get your own place sorted or to get away from him (not to deign to tell you how to run your life).

[sheplovr]

Life can be so cruel to some honey. I wish the very best for you and hope you do wake up and listen to your brain not your heart in this case.
Men lie often, it happens in all countries, they use women like you so kind and sweet.

Make a decision, get a job, pay half the pup and get your own place, make a new start, try to keep busy and forget. Somebody will come your way and just be kinda hard and not so soft in making decisions and trusting all men. The Best to You....:)

[Tom Cruise]

Make a decision, get a job, pay half the pup

i'd think she's have to pay for all the puppy if she wants to keep it

[bright eyes]

1st of all u dont av 2 put up with being cheated on because that aint right and u r worth more than that. and u should seek legal advice on where u stand with the dog . u may av 2 share him but u might still be able 2 c him x
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[Tom Cruise]

1st of all u dont av 2 put up with being cheated on because that aint right and u r worth more than that. and u should seek legal advice on where u stand with the dog . u may av 2 share him but u might still be able 2 c him xthe fi



sorry if i sound like i'm being negative but i'm just being realistic... If her bf paid for the dog, then he has the right to ownership i'm afraid. Since they're not married and he paid for the pet in the entireity, there is no precident for her demanding any visitation or ownership of the dog. Getting legal consultation to tell you that would be a waste of time, as common sense should dictate it

[Bailey-lover]

Oh,

Im so sorry to hear that. I agree he's such a jerk! If you have the money you should take that pup! You are both entilted to the pup therefore you have just as much right to it as he does!

Goodluck

[olimpia]

thanks guys, we had really open talk last night and we decided to give our relationship last chance, it will take a while for me to trust him again, but at least there is hope. i found the puppy is really clever, i stayed in friend's house monday night, my boyfriend told me she was really unhappy, because i always with her before. when i back home she was very excited.

[Owned_by_Cai!]

Possesion is nine tenths of the law!

[Care of Charm]

Well I disagree with cheating full stop.
But I have been in your shoes once it was heartbreaking to leave my animals with my ex but they pointed out that as I had no income how could i pay for food, vet bills and general care I couldnt argue so I had to leave them.
Only you can see whats best for your life and relationships so i hope it works out for you.
In regard to your pup, is'nt there something in the law regarding the giving of "Gifts". Though he paid for the puppy i assume it was on the understanding that she was for the both of you so tecnically 50% of her was gifted to you. Also you may have some rights as you were persuaded on his advice to give up your job to give full time care to her, is there nothing along the lines of stay at home mothers rights or something similer ?
Personally I would go back to work so you have your own income/independance and you both get a dog sitter to visit during the day or work your shifts so one of you is always home till shes old enough for a sitter.
Thats just my pennys worth anyway.

[zoran]

I agree that you should go back to work. To me it sounds like bf asked you to quit your job so you would be dependent on him in a situation such as this. The way I understood it she gave the bf money to help pay for the pup, so either way, if she paid half or if it was a gift she owns half at least. I hope the second try works out for you, but get a job so you will have your own money if the time comes that you have to leave in a hurry. If you do leave, take the pup and don't tell him you are leaving, just go. I would want to have everything in order to make sure you don't get shot down a second time.

[lynnie]

Its a very hard situation,my daughters dog bought her a rotti when they were together and then he became violent and she finally kicked him out, she was lucky in the fact he couldnt keep dogs in his flat, so they finally agreed he would help out with costs etc and take him out occasionally, worse thing she could have done, he now blackmails her all the time, ie if you dont take me back i'll take the dog etc and now the dogs 18 months old she will be devestated, it would be best to make a clean break, buy the puppy off him if you can cos he sounds like a jerk, but dont let it go on to long because the longer it does the more you'll get attached, poor you, hope it turns out ok in the end. theres always some one here to listen:(

[bright eyes]

to tom cruise although her boyfriend paid for the dog it dont make any difference because the dog was brought into a home where they both live